the concept of virginity





  • is heteronormative
  • excludes males
  • disrespects rape survivors
  • objectifies females
  • reduces women to how men perceive them sexually
  • erases female sexuality
  • reinforces oppressive ideals of femininity and masculinity
  • in itself, doesn’t even make sense
  • reduce sex to male penetration
  • weaponizes penetration as a depreciation against women
  • Is extremely cissexist



Via Rutgers University Center for Social Justice Education and LGBT Communities

"The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in May, surveyed 902 people who practice BDSM and 434 people who prefer so-called "vanilla" (non-kinky) sex. Each person filled out questionnaires regarding their personalities, general well-being, sensitivity to rejection and style of attachment in relationships. The participants were not aware of the purpose of the study.

Despite past assumptions that BDSM proclivities might be correlated with previous abuse, rape or mental disorders (research has shown that they’re not), this survey found that kinky people actually scored better on many indicators of mental health than those who didn’t practice BDSM, reported LiveScience. According to Reuters, BDSM-friendly participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.”

Imagine that, not everyone with a kink or two is an abuser or rapist or a victim of abuse.

What clearly does have an impact on children though is denying them sex education, suppressing their sexual identity, and shutting off access to child protection or mental health charities. In all this talk of porn filters, the rights of the children campaigners supposedly want to protect have been ignored or trampled. Children should have a right to good quality sex education, access to support hotlines and websites, and information about their sexuality.


Nonprofit Forward Together surveyed Oakland high school students about sex education in their schools—these charts show what the students think. The whole story is here


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Those new survey results fall in line with the past decade of public opinion polling on the subject. Back in 2002, 90 percent of the public said they support comprehensive sex ed that includes information about preventing pregnancy and STDs. In 2004, 94 percent of Americans said they think it’s appropriate for young people to receive accurate information about contraception. In 2007, more than 80 percent of Americans said that schools should be required to implement this type of comprehensive sex ed. In 2008, 93 percent of parents said they believe their kids should be taught age-appropriate sex ed with information about prevention methods.

Sex is not a goddamn performance. Sex should feel as natural as drinking water. It should not require confidence.

Sex should happen, because the moment is ripe. Ripening lips, ripening labia, ripening cock, ripening pupils, ripening state of being. Ripe and augmented and brimming. Your energy goes to your pumping heart, then to every external nerve, then to theirs, on fire.

You bask, roll, play in it. You sigh, moan, laugh. It’s not about being “good in bed.” It’s about being happy.

One should never worry if they’re doing it “correctly.” Sex is not factual. I don’t want your cookie-cutter sex, I don’t want your meticulously crafted, calculated, fool-proof fuck. I don’t want a show. I want you. Let your instincts, urges and whims define that. It’s enough.

What do most girls like? Forget about it. Statistics are meaningless when there’s only one. Hello, here’s me. Here’s you. Don’t worry about taking it too slow. We got time. We got infinite rhythms, combinations, possibilities. Explore each fuck. Take our time. We can do a different one later.

Don’t worry about making me come. I’m here. Right where I want to be. I am overwhelmed by wanting; you don’t have to convince me. I want you because I like you. So don’t put on a front. Don’t taint this.

I’m frustrated—it’s just authenticity I want. It’s originality. It’s passion. It’s joy. Don’t say that something I like is ugly. Don’t compare yourself to the rest. You will live and die with and within your experiences like everyone else. If someone thinks you are amazing, they are not wrong. Their universe is as real as any other; it is forged through perception.

I don’t care if you accidentally slammed my head into the wall, if you slipped out, if my arm cracked, if the delightful pressure of your wet lips on my anything made a silly sound. There is no right way and no wrong way.

“Good in bed,” what. You’re good in my bed. I’m pleased you’re there. I feel it suits you. Shove your technique. Let your memory swallow it. Fuck me like you’d fuck me, fuck me like you feel. This isn’t a test.

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since america refuses to give comprehensive sex ed, a lot of people end up learning from….porn. not the most wonderful thing when sex is represented inaccurately in all kiiiinds of ways in pornography.

-set from Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: The Differences Explained With Food (x)(x)


I’m sure a lot of you have already seen this, it’s certainly all over the sex education tags.

The main issues I have with it are the exclusion of mentioning how much cissexism is a part of our language and education on sex and I would have put more emphasis on consent and how many of these concepts are a part of rape culture. For instance, I remember a quote at some point saying how you don’t just order someone a pizza, you ask if they want to go eat pizza with you and ask what they want on it. 

Also, just a personal note I had to add because it’s about pizza. I’m lactose intolerant so whenever we order pizza we keep that in mind and order it without cheese. Sometimes my partners will eat pizza with cheese on the side but they’re sure to get me something without cheese. We also have to keep my physical conditions in mind when we have sex. We have to make sure it’s something I can do and sometimes I don’t feel up to it which is okay because my partner can always masturbate later (eat a slice of pizza with cheese). I really like this new metaphor!